Momories: The Veil of Illusion

Momories: The Veil of Illusion

Michele Nappi - Mystic Medium
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On the first Wednesday of each month I hold a Meditation, Healing, and Reading (psychic medium) in Group Session at the body, mind, spirit shop I am the proprietor of. Through one of these events I gave a reading to a woman who was struggling about letting go of her ‘momories.’ We shared some of the same thoughts and feelings, as moms. How we feel as our children grow up and go off on their own, how this affects us and what the process of acceptance during this period in our lives brings us. We all go through this in one way or another.

A week or so later this friend wrote me, “Since the last open reading I have really been thinking about grief. One of the things you pointed out, Michele, was that your children leaving is different than someone crossing over. The sadness, for me, is about the loss of my "little" boys but also my role in the world has now shifted. I am sad AND proud. I am lonely AND excited. I feel not needed AND valuable. It is the range of emotions that can be confusing and I am going back and forth between all of them with varying intensities. The pendulum swing is calming down now and I am grateful. It is not that I want to hang on to the past, it is a matter of getting use to a new reality. For me, most transitions have been like that. Two things have bubbled up since the reading- 1. It is a process. The more I "rush" it, the longer it will last. 2. I am looking at expectations. I am trying to let go of the picture in my head. Thank you for the insight, Michele.”

All of life is a process. When we can accept that there truly is no such thing as failure on any level, we are free. The pictures in our heads are memories from the past - your last breath - the one you just exhaled and the one last out breath we take - is all past. We can't help but see images. We can choose/decide what to think of them. We are always in a state of grief when we think a certain way. When we think another way we are in a state of elation and joy from the memories we choose. We say we are triggered and yet, into what thought? What emotion? We own them all. With compassion for self, we are in our hearts in a way that is peaceful. We age, if we are fortunate. Life moves on with or without us. The brave and courageous among us accept where we are spiritually, emotionally, physically, and mentally. When we don't accept that doesn't necessarily mean we are not brave. It means we have chosen to hang on in spite of the pain and suffering it may cause. We know life is fleeting, that all there is is change. Renunciation. Accepting means that we have processed long enough and that is up to each person. Dogs have been shown to 'hang on' to their memories, their habitual ways when their person crosses over. Many rejoice in this because this shows us that love is everlasting. You love your babies, your children, and so on. Love endures.

My friend said, “I am working on living "in process". Up to now I have thought about things having endings..... If I could just get there, then I will be happy". I now realize that there is no end. It is an ongoing, flow....one thing melds into the next. Since the meditation group I have started putting my attention on my accomplishments, my growth, as a way to release myself from the impatience of getting "there".


The memories (momories) are energy vibration. We feel the pull in our gut/solar plexus when we try to reconnect to what is past. As you swing back and forth between the past and the now moment you are healing. When you have healed enough, you release and are in the present moment. This is the grief cycle. You see that. Reality is perception. You are creating this perception, as we all do. In this process you become clear, open, and whole-hearted. A place where expectations are released and compassion lives. I commended my friend on her courage, strength, and wonderful insight.

Since there is no such thing as duality - no 'other' side of the coin - no glass half empty or full - no 'other side of the road' - all is one. All is whole. Each thought leading to feeling is whole. It is all perception and grace. When we honor our truth we honor ourselves and all others. It is much easier and calmer to release in this fashion, than struggling against our truth.

There are times lately, when I experience so many synchronicities, I could walk right through illusion. Which brings me to wondering why and then again, I am reminded that the perception of illusion is illusion itself. I laugh. A cosmic joke. I AM experiencing so many lately. They bring me the clear, peaceful place within my heart and soul where words do not define the experience.

We create the veil of illusion and the illusion we create is the veil.

All along, all along, and the veil lifts. Clarity. Peace for all; all I create as perception and all that I do not on this great and mighty mother earth that has offered, and continues to offer such wonderful momories..